There is a misconception in our popular culture that a man is always ready for sex and a woman isn’t. For any man or woman who feels this is the truth, this article will clear up the misunderstanding and may help restore balance.

A man engaging in sex with a woman is like a man playing a musical instrument. Saying a man is always ready for sex and a woman isn’t is like saying the violinist is always ready to play and the violin isn’t. Men and women are equally ready, they just express it differently.

A man can have sex with any woman and give her female orgasms any time he wants when he follows these steps.

1. Make sure she’s in tune

• A woman’s arousal starts in her brain. If that brain is occupied by pressing worries or problems, there is no room for thoughts of sex. If she is angry or hurt, she can’t be turned on until these feelings subside. These feelings could be about her lover or something completely outside.
• Therefore, a man who is trying to seduce her must first: address whatever is currently on her mind. And second, facilitate it getting resolved or put on the shelf. For example: “I can see that you’re mad at me because I forgot to take out the trash again.” Then listen to what she says. Then say, “I’m sorry that I made you feel this way. I have a solution. I’ll put a reminder alarm on my cell phone so I’ll never forget again.” Problem solved. Now there’s room for sex.
• This may seem like it has nothing to do with sex and like it is a lot of hard work. It can also look like a prodigy violinist is wasting time tuning his instrument. Why doesn’t he just play already? Because the instrument isn’t ready yet and has to be tuned.

2. Learn where the notes are

• Each woman’s sexual organ is slightly different, just like each musical instrument is different. If you want to play, you have to learn where the notes are. What does she like? If you touch her there, how does she feel? There? If you press hard on this string does it sound beautiful or ugly? If the touch is soft, is the music tantalizing or annoyingly too quiet?
• The fastest way to “learn the notes” is to ask her what she likes, then fill in the gaps by doing your own experimenting and asking her how it feels each step of the way.

3. Practice.

• Even the most virtuoso musician with the finest instrument will practice for hours each day. Practice happens in stages
• Reviewing and memorizing the places and ways of touching to produce the best effect. You can visualize yourself doing it when your woman is not nearby, go over in your mind what those good spots were and think of more to try.
• Repeat. Each time you engage in sex, concentrate on using the touches and moves and techniques that you know she likes. At the beginning, it may be a lot of work, but eventually, your fingers will fly to those places without even thinking – just the same way as with a musical instrument you’ve mastered.

4. Invite the muse

• At this point in the career of a musician, as in the life of an excellent lover, there has been many hours, months, even years of practice and he has nearly reached mastery. To go from good to excellent involves creativity, sensitive interpretation, and even the involvement of spirit.
• After the master lover has become an expert of the notes and strings and buttons of his lady’s sexual body, it is time for him to use that body to express himself: conjure his deepest feelings and show them in a masterpiece of touches on her body. It may involve doing new things, crazy things – and it will be amazing.

5. Tend to the instrument

• After a musician has finished playing, he goes through processes to take care of his instrument: adding oil, loosening now strings, changing strings, disassembling, carefully packing, etc. It would be easier and faster for him if he didn’t do these things, but he does because he knows it will make his instrument last longer and continue to produce beautiful music.
• It is the same way between lovers. How men and women act toward each other in everyday situations that are in no way sexual is in fact a part of the sex. To have great sex, lovers should be kind to each other when they are not having sex.

Any musician knows that there are no short cuts. We also know that the journey is part of the pleasure so there is no need for shortcuts. A man seeking to have sex with a woman does have an advantage over the musician: his instrument can talk to him, show him, and of course, give him the same pleasure and attention in return. You become a female orgasm master if you think of it as playing a musical instrument.