The G Spot goes in and out of fashion with sex experts. Some claim it exists, some deny.

The G Spot is really the underside or root of the clitoris and its nerves, which can be stimulated from inside the vagina, though women vary far more in their response to this type of stimulation than they do in their clitoral responses.

Some women feel it’s the greatest turn-on ever, some hate it, some feel it’s a pleasurable variation, others find it irritating.

There are no rights and wrongs. What matters is for both partners to feel free to experiment and give feedback on what feels good to them. Because the G Spot can be so sensitive and its effects unpredictable, it’s often a good idea for the woman to explore for herself first and then later share the knowledge with her partner.

Fingers are usually going to be more effective than a penis, by the way, and you’re more likely to find the G Spot if the woman is already well aroused. There is a special sex toy designed to help – the Rock-Chick - which stimulates the clitoris and the G Spot simultaneously. See www.rock-chick.com for details.

Most women are more responsive to clitoral stimulation and need clitoral stimulation if they are to climax during intercourse.

What often intrigues people about the G Spot is that it’s said to be linked with female ejaculation – women producing fluid on climax just as men do.

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This is how to touch a woman’s face:

Face contours

Facial stroking can feel divine, and is a shortcut to sexual arousal. Use a forefinger and index finger to massage the temples in a gentle circular motion, then use the pads of your fingers to stroke along every contour, particularly the jaw line and cheeks. Really look at her like she would be the most beautiful woman in the world.

Lips

Don’t waste the erotic potential of this hot zone by immediately planting a kiss smack-center with tongue flying. Instead take time to nibble, kiss and lick the upper and lowe lip separately. Catch the upper lip between your teeth and bite gently. Lick the insides of her lips. Suck gently her lower lip. Make circular trails by planting little kisses all around the edges of her mouth. And finally move in for some nice, long, soft and sexy kissing.

Ears

The ear is a sexy hot spot because when you lean toward her she’s not sure you’re going to turn her on with your tongue or whisper something naughty. Use the combination of both. Being stimulated on the ears and earlobes sends signals straight to her internal pleasure zone. Flick and lick gently, lightly, slowly, concentrating on the earlobes and the outside area rather than inside the ear canal.

Neck

There’s something incredibly sexy about being licked, nibbled, even breathed on in such a vulnerable spot. Start by brushing your lips into the hollow, the the neck meets the torso, then move into featherly kisses alternated with tiny licks up her neck, onöt stopping when you hit a hairline. Start gently but when it all heats up, change the pressure of your kisses from feathery to firm, and add in a few experimental nips. If that gets a moan rather than an ouch, she might like a gentle bite.

Start the foreplay from touching a woman’s face.

Use these top masturbation tips for women by women for maximum effectiveness solo sex.

Hot Tub Party

If you have a hot tub, get in front of one of the jets or blowers and spread your legs as far as you can. Get a bit far from it and let it hit your clitoris and slowly begin to go closer to the jet. The closer you get the more intense the stimulation becomes. You can orgasm pretty quickly, so you can even do it a few times in a row. It feels very good anyway.

Shower Head

When you take a bath, sit down and let the water fill until your tummy. Then unscrew the shower head, so that you have a very strong stream of water directed toward your clitoris. Open your legs and enjoy. You can enjoy orgasms for extended periods of time.

Rub-a-dub-dub

Lie in an empty bathtub. Spread your legs wide and turn on the faucet to a lukewarm, yet on the colder side temperature. Take a position where the constant flow of the water is on your clitoris. Position your arms so your elbows are holding you up. You can put your hands wedged under your bottom for additional pressure. As you start getting hotter and hotter, change the temperature to more of a hot one, and enjoy! Gives great orgasms almost every time.

Patting the vagina

Use enough lube to create a smooth hand-to-vagina connection. Gently pat your clitor with your hand flat. Occasionally, hold your hand down, creating pressure and then go back to patting. Eventually, just press and release, not pulling the hand all the way off.

The shovel

Use a dildo or other similar object, and pretend your toy is a shovel and you are digging softly. With a forward gliding motion, slide the toy down to your clitoris, across it and then upward, removing it from your body completely. Repeat over and over and over until you climax.

The sandwich

Hold your clit from its base between two fingers with one hand while stroking it with your other hand (either one finger or more rubbing). The pressure of the stroke is up to you, of course, but continue to maintain the sandwich effect while you work on it.

Oral hygiene

Take an electric toothbrush (preferably one with varying speeds) and turn it on, moving it around your inner thigh until you get nice and wet. Without a little lubrication, this can be kind of uncomfortable. Then bring it right on top of your clitoris, first to one side, then the other. Usually one side of your clit is more sensitive than the other. If you REALLY want to drive yourself wild, leave the toothbrush on that side for most of the time. It cab really feel divine.

Tap, tap, tap

Tap your clit rapidly. Faster and faster and faster. It will get you hot and wet.  When you are about to climax, rub it hard. Always works. Always.

Flex, relax, flex, relax

Take your index and middle finger and place them on your clit. Harden the muscles in your legs as much as you can and imagine your hips are being pushed back. Now take the two fingers on your clit and move them back and forth, while still pressing on your clit. Then once you get the hang of it tighten and untighten your legs to give added effect, but not too much. It’s hard to keep this up after the orgasm, but you can place your fingers in a spot slightly above or below your clit to do this again many times.

Which one of these masturbation tips works best for you?

Men’s Health magazine conducted a survey getting answers from thousands of women regarding sex. What women want in bed? What are their insecurities? What to women want from men?

While a lot of men worry whether they come too soon, that was only a huge concern for 22 percent of women. Interestingly, when women were asked for their top complaint, 22 percent said “more oral, please.”

Next to premature ejaculation, men’s biggest fear is that their penis is too small (as per 17.6 percent of men who listed it as their number-one insecurity), followed closely by how long it takes to achieve another erection after sex (15.4 percent) and being unsure if she reaches orgasm (14.6 percent).

But turns out  what women want in bed is something else. Their biggest complaint is not enough foreplay. No big surprise here! In addition 19 percent say, “He doesn’t know how to touch me,” and 26 percent complain of “the same moves, every time.”

While the stereotype goes that men want sex more than women, the survey points out that 34 percent of women say “I wish we’d do it more.” In other words, not getting enough is the top complaint of roughly a third of everyone who responded, and more women than men had this complaint.

4 key learnings from this survey on what women want in bed:

1. Make feedback sexy, not strained
Improving your sex life comes through candid discussion. The change can come from in-the-throes encouragement rather than pointing out flaws. Show how you’d like to be touched by grazing his or her body gently with your fingers rather than grabbing. Moaning, increased urgency, and verbal enthusiasm will let your partner know what turns you on, while gentle redirection with hand or body position will show what doesn’t.

2. Prolong foreplay
Foreplay should be a progression, not a sprint. Watching a sexy/romantic movie together, flirting over a romantic dinner, whispering sexy remarks in the midst of a crowded party, or cooking breakfast together can all be a prelude to more connected sex. Slow-burning foreplay isn’t only better for you: Longer foreplay helps men synchronize with their partners, giving them better control over ejaculation.

3. Get the timing right
Most couples fall into a rut of having sex at bedtime, but the workweek is the worst time for rock-the-firmament lovemaking. In a separate survey, 64 percent of men said that exhaustion, stress, and packed schedules are the three biggest sex blockers, and women cite being “too tired” as their number one turn-off. So switch up your regular schedule: Order dinner in after a stressful day and canoodle while you wait, or indulge a lazy Saturday morning in bed - times when you’re both stress-free, well-rested, and better able to focus on one another.

4. Foster a feeling of emotional closeness

A third of men and almost 50% of women say that feeling emotionally connected is the most important part of mind-blowing sex. Open your eyes and savor the moment. Pause to breathe and establish eye contact between kisses, be aware of every touch and caress, and be open in conveying your pleasure. The more secure you both feel, the less guarded sex will become.

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The Hite Report on Female Sexuality research, published in 1998, shows that 94 percent of women can regularly orgasm via self-stimulation. Sadly this is not often happening during sex with a partner because the stimulation is not done in the same way. Men often think women orgasm the same way they do, and they need to be educated.

The definition of sex should change to include clitoral stimulation as a normal part of sex. This would also make sex more egalitarian, no longer exaggeratedly focused on penetration and coitus as the high point or climax of sex. Sex is way too macho the way it is right now.

Society has not been able to quickly overturn centuries of belief about the act, or allowed women to orgasm in their own way. Instead, it has clung to the new trendy term with its old-fashioned idea of sex.

Sex should change into an activity where both women and men get the stimulation they need for orgasm. Since women can easily orgasm via their own clitoral-area stimulation during masturbation, the same stimulation should become an equally important high point to intercourse and penetration in a new version of sex.

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